While there are some signs that may indicate that they are lying to us, we must be careful because sometimes they may also be due to a way of being too shy.
Although some people have a “sixth sense” or intuition enough to know if the speaker speaks the truth, others can not detect if they are lying to us without shamelessness.
Did you know that the body and above all the face can give us signals to discover fallacies and falsehoods? In this article we tell you more.
How do we know if they are lying to us?
Paying attention to facial expressions and body movements can avoid deceit and lies. It can also serve to trust others (especially if it is someone we have just met).
Some of the most effective techniques are used for example in police interrogation processes or in trials.
1. Observe the micro expressions of the face
These are the little faces that appear on the face when we are talking and that reveal the emotions behind the words (especially if they are lies).
Usually someone who is not telling the truth shows anguish, raised eyebrows and wrinkled forehead.
2. Pay attention to the smile
Some individuals smile forcefully when they are lying to reduce the pressure that this action entails. It is essential to differentiate the friendly smile from the “liar.”
How to do it? Analyzing the amount of muscles that are involved:
- If the laughter is true, all the musculature of the face moves, even the one around the eyes.
- On the contrary if it is a forced smile “only” reaches the lips and lower cheeks. Look at the pictures and you’ll know right away.
3. Look at the contact of the hands with the face
- When a person lies they are likely to scratch their noses or cover their mouths when talking.
This is because adrenaline levels increase by not telling the truth and it reaches the nasal capillaries, which causes itching.
- On the other hand, the act of blocking the lips with the fingers or the palms is an unconscious form that the human being has to “cover the lies”.
We can also see that the mouth is gathered by emotional tension.
4. Concentrate on the look
Deceiving the other is not something that people do with total pleasure (with exceptions, of course).
That is why, if they are lying to us, it is likely that they will not look directly into our eyes, or that they will turn our eyes to either side.
- Avoidance of eye contact distances them from the situation and makes them feel less guilty.
- Looking into the eyes when speaking is a sign of confidence, security and truthfulness. The opposite can be synonymous with betrayal or fallacy.
Pay attention to the blinking speed. Perhaps the movement is greater when they are telling a lie.
5. Analyze the voice
It is another of the indicators of lie or truth. For example, lying may speak faster or slower than normal, or it may be that emotional stress causes changes in tone (more acute or more severe).
Sputtering or stammering are also signs of not saying the right thing, especially if it is accompanied by nervousness or redness in the cheeks.
However, we must be careful because these signs can also be a product of shame or shyness of the person . Do not get confused.
6. Evaluate unconscious responses
The duration of the reactions and the synchronization in the chat can also determine the truth or falsehood.
For example, if someone has tried both a response or statement, if it seems to have learned from memory every word or do not let even a second to answer a question you are more likely to be trying to deceive us .
You should also pay attention to very specific or excessive details. For example, if you indicate specific timetables (at 3:20 p.m., 12:50 p.m., etc.) or if you stretch too much on unimportant data (wearing blue pants that you had bought at a discount downtown store Right in front of the cafeteria where a very nice girl attends …).
7. Inquire and ask
If we suspect that someone is lying to us a good way to unmask him is by asking and probing further.
If we start from the base that deception is premeditated and the person knows the most usual answers, try to go further and talk about deeper issues.
If you give us incongruous or erroneous information it may be because you did not tell the truth from the beginning.
Pay attention to the time it takes to answer these additional questions.
For example, you can go back to the same words as before and do not respond directly to the query, take several seconds to speak (contrary to what happened when you knew the answers), contradict yourself or become more and more nervous.
8. Remember the words spoken
Choosing certain words or phrases can also be an indicator of lies.
For example, if the other repeats exactly the same words used by you in the question to give an answer.
In turn, if instead of saying “yes” or “no” in a query decides to “go through the branches” not to compromise with a statement or a denial.
Speaking authoritatively is also synonymous with lying, in some cases. The same happens with certain jokes, sarcasm or the use of phrases like “to be completely honest”, “really” or “really.”